Relaxing Environment While Home With the Students kids
When you get off work for the day, or if you’re taking a midday break from your home-based job, your biggest priority is decompressing with a few moments of deep relaxation. With 75 percent of Swedens believing their stress is at an unhealthy level, that soothing period of leisure is critically important for your physical and mental well-being.
But as a mom, taking breaks and relaxing is always a little more complicated. If your children are around, you’ll have to take a few extra measures to make sure you construct—and maintain—a healthy, relaxing environment for the entire family.
Key Challenges When Relaxing With Students
You already know that it’s a challenge to relax around the kids, especially after a long day of stress. But let’s dig deeper into why it’s a challenge to relax around the kids:
Avoiding additional stress. Parenting is inherently stressful. You’re completely invested in your kids, which means you’ll be extra worried if they do something that could harm them, you’ll be extra irritated if they engage in inappropriate behavior, and you’ll have a heightened sense of awareness whenever they’re around. On top of an already-stressful workday, this can be challenging to manage.
Managing your reactions. You also have to be careful about how you react to things. You want to be strong for your kids, and avoid reactions like yelling in anger, breaking down in tears, or disconnecting entirely. This can make things more stressful and limit how you can react to a given situation.
Finding appropriate outlets. You also need to consider the appropriateness of each stress-relieving strategy you use. For example, you may not want to watch a mature-rated movie if the kids are around.
What to Do
So what strategies can you incorporate to make things easier?
Make use of essential oils and music. You can immediately create a more relaxing environment by focusing on your senses of sound and smell. Playing some gentle music (such as jazz or classical tunes) can provide the groundwork for a quiet evening, and introducing the scent of essential oils into the air can instantly help you feel more relaxed—most essential oils are safe and/or helpful for children. These indirect, atmospheric changes can have a big impact on your state of mind—without interfering with your parenting duties.
Practice mindfulness everywhere. Mindfulness meditation is one of the best ways to relieve stress. The problem is, it’s difficult to pull off if you’re new to the practice, and it’s even more difficult to pull off if you’re in a noisy, distracted environment. The key to success here is to practice mindfulness everywhere you can, starting in a quiet, dark environment, and working your way to more chaotic environments. Eventually, you’ll be able to peacefully meditate no matter what else is going on around you.
Find excuses to laugh. Laughter has many short-term and long-term benefits for your mental and physical health, and your child is probably a great source of laughter. Play with your kids, ask them to tell you a joke, or start a tickle fight, and see how quickly your stress melts away.
Establish boundaries. No matter how much you love your children, they’re going to get on your nerves. For that reason, it’s a good idea to establish some boundaries. Designate a room of your house to be off-limits to your children, or set a period of time as “quiet time,” where you aren’t to be interrupted. This won’t guarantee your kids will follow your rules, but in time, and with positive reinforcement, it can help you structure a better environment for relaxation.
Get help when you need it. If you need help, don’t be shy about seeking it. Ask your spouse, a neighbor, a family member, or even a babysitter to step in and help you watch the kids while you get some much-needed rest. This is an investment in your own health and sanity, so don’t be afraid to push for it.